A girl with too many male friends

7 min readApr 27, 2021

What I learned from being the only lady in the gang

My mom always told me that since I was a little girl, I had more male friends than… let’s use the “expected” word here. More male friends than expected.

I guess that back then little girls were expected to spend more time with other little girls, rather than covered in mud, full of bruises from running too much and too fast and learning the bad words way too early.

20 years later I’m in the same situation. I have more male friends than girlfriends and I must admit that I would more often spend my time with them than with my girlfriends. Don’t get me wrong, I love all my friends very much! I don’t have too many of them and I’m fully dedicated to all these few relationships I have. I value their exitance and I don’t think I could ever be grateful enough for having them in my life.

But I have this tendency to be too casual. And this kind of attitude would better describe a guys’ world. I’m afraid we’re still living those times, where the world is secretly split in too many well defined categories, but this is a topic for another time… For the sake of this story, we’ll casually keep this natural segregation of genders and mentalities and all those other concepts that must be too well defined in order to please everybody.